Let's Get Free in 2023
Join me for a new 9-month program — "The Roadmap to Freedom: A Hero’s Journey for Men"
Gentlemen-
Back in 2015, when I began my own inward journey in earnest, I was just looking for help: I wanted someone (anyone!) to show me how to break free from the anxiety, stress, depression, fear and lack of confidence I experienced on a daily basis. I wanted help rediscovering my courage, and creating a vision for the man I wanted to be.
A few things about me back then:
I was highly concerned with what other people thought of me — to the point of obsession with all aspects of my appearance
I rarely spoke up or shared my true feelings with anyone for fear of their reaction
I was anxious, burnt out, depressed, and shut down from my feelings. I rarely cried, got angry, or felt much of anything except fear.
I was addicted to work, alcohol, drugs, sex, cigarettes, shopping, social media, and other coping mechanisms that helped me feel in control of my surroundings
I felt consistently “stuck” in my life
THE PROBLEM:
Books I read in the coming years called my underlying condition “codependency,” or “Nice Guy Syndrome” or “Toxic Shame”. And I could have easily qualified as a “fawner”, “people pleaser", or a “fuccboi”. But, while helpful for pointing me in the right direction, these labels fell short of fully encapsulating the breadth of what I was hoping to do and what I was hoping to heal. I didn’t want another story about who I was and what was wrong with me, I wanted a solution to feel good and start living a life I was proud of!
THE ROADMAP:
My first guide on my journey to becoming a free man was a Texas therapist named John Lee. His book: The Flying Boy served as a roadmap for me in my early days. John wrote candidly about his own journey out of passivity, fear and “stuck-ness,” and his words resonated. It was in the pages of The Flying Boy that I found hope. I realized that it was possible to heal, let go of the past and my conditioning, and ultimately thrive as a man in the world and in my relationships—especially my relationship with myself.
When I started my own coaching practice in 2019, the majority of the guys who wandered into my coaching practice, unsurprisingly, were just like me: They struggled with confidence, and speaking up for what they wanted. They often felt afraid and shut down from their feelings. And they wanted to cultivate more connection, more passion, and more fulfillment in their lives.
Early on in coaching, it became clear to me that I had a very specific (not to mention very rad) clientele and I wanted to offer these amazing dudes the same gift John had offered me: A roadmap to get from A to B. As in: How does a man go from stuck to thriving? From passive to proactive? From numbness to aliveness? From fearful to realizing he is powerful beyond his wildest dreams?
Over the past 6 months, I’ve put together that “Roadmap to Freedom” here on The Naked Man. And now it’s time to test it out in the world.
THE OFFERING:
Starting in March, I’m offering (10) men the opportunity to go on the hero’s journey I’ve outlined in The Naked Man alongside me. A journey into the heart of who you truly are surrounded by other inspiring men who will witness you, support you, challenge you, and celebrate you in being that version of yourself in the world.
Our 9-Month journey will traverse a lot of ground, and will also cement us in a profound sense of brotherhood. As a participant in men’s groups for many years, I can tell you that a group of men with a shared purpose is a powerful thing and may be the very thing that your life has been missing up until this point in your journey. It may be the very thing that makes all the difference in you creating the life you know is inside you, but has yet to emerge.
Most of all, guys, this year is gonna be FUN. It’s gonna be inspiring. It’s gonna be challenging. And it’s going to change everything in your life if you allow it to.
Here’s how the journey will break down:
Month 1: The Ordinary World
Our kickoff month will be focused on what we are dealing with currently: What brought you into this program? What inspired you to want to make changes in your life? What are you struggling with? What are your dreams? Why are you here?
Month 2: Origins
Before we know where we are going, we have to know where we’ve been. And this month’s focus will be a deep dive into the people, places and things that have shaped us into who we are today. Be prepared to look at questions like: What was important to my parents? What did they value? What were their priorities? What got me love from my mother? What got me love from my father? What did society tell me about being a man?
Month 3: The Descent
Now that we’re aware of our origins, we become aware of our shadow: all the parts of ourselves we’ve suppressed, or kept hidden for fear of judgment, ridicule, or rejection. This material will be our focus as we dive into the “basement”. It’s gonna be juicy!
Month 4: Death
Before we can be reborn, we need to die to what is no longer working in our lives: this can include relationships, ways of being, attitudes about ourselves, others, and the world, etc. Anything holding us back from being the man we want to be. It’s time to let all of that go now.
Month 5: Rebirth
Letting go of the past, we take three weeks to regroup, grieve, orient, and begin to envision what the future will look like. This is typically a quiet time of much reflection, like the moment in the tunnel before a big game.
Month 6: Purpose and Creation
Now that we’ve let go of the old, let us begin creating a vision for the new: How DO we want to live our lives? What are the cornerstones of our new existence? What do we ultimately want to create and leave in the world as our legacy?
Month 7: Habits
Together we’ll work to put our realizations from the Purpose and Creation month into actionable steps that will begin to transform the way we live our days day-to-day. This is where the rubber meets the road!
Month 8: Support
Now that you have a vision for creation, how will you support yourself? What tools, resources and practices can best set you up for success?
Month 9: Completion and Return
Our final month together will be devoted to reflecting and wrapping up the journey together, and sending you on your way back into your world, armed with the life changing wisdom and practices that you have gleaned from your adventure! If you continue on this path you’ve forged over these 9 months, I can promise you that your life will never be the same.
NEXT STEPS:
If you’re a man looking to up-level his life and leave the past and unhelpful patterns behind, fill out a form at my website, here, and tell me why you want into this special group of men. I’ll respond to each application received, and we’ll set aside time in February to speak over Zoom to discuss your journey and “The Roadmap to Freedom” program in more depth.
Note: this work and program is not for everyone. It will require a profound commitment to yourself, and to the other men in the group. It will require a willingness to dive deep into the very things that have served as obstacles to your evolution up until this point. And it will require you to courageously experiment with new behaviors to get the results you want. But shit, haven’t you waited long enough to live the life you’ve been dying to live?
2023 is the year. And if you’re dying to break free, let’s do it together. I’ll be your guide every step of the way.
-Sean